I’m going to be honest, I joined the HDC without a clear plan for the future of my business because it didn’t matter to me what I needed to do to get what the HDC promised—a work/life balance that would allow me the freedom to do what I truly wanted with my time, which is to be a more present mother to my kids and love on them so hard that THAT would become my full time job! To have more time to dedicate to myself and put into practice just BEing myself in efforts to heal at greater depths AND speed. And to create a business I loved so completely and unconditionally—like I pushed it out of the same vajay-jay from which my kids came.
With that said, I committed to do whatever the work was and as you know, I’ve been doing the work you’re dishing out even through ALL the discomfort and fear that ALL the vulnerability brings me and I knew it would push me towards even more freedom (to be me) but what I didn’t know was that the more I did the work, the more my plan for my business would form, the more I knew what my business cart would become and the more I became excited for my purpose in life to be packaged, offered and served to those who felt called to be served by me in such an authentic and meaningful way.
I’m growing and nurturing this business inside me and I will be birthing this business naturally—at home, at my pace, with Salsa music playing, surrounded by those I love and you as my business doula.
Truthfully— it really has become easier to shift, build and make decisions for my business because with each decision I make the answers are cumulatively creating the path (the dream plan for my business) as I continue to lean into, well, ME. The stars are just magically aligning. (I hope this made sense to you!)
So to our fearless experimentation leader, whom I dearly, wholeheartedly and unconditionally love (and let’s make this clear, I just met her this year so there’s no “we go back to yesteryear” bias) you have tapped into the most powerful wisdom and are sharing that wisdom while exemplifying that your “too much” to some is “just right” for this Goldie locks—I mean Brownie Locks, and your off the wall, unorthodox (which truly should be the orthodox way) of doing business without separation of business and Self has lit my soul on fire and I look forward to not only seeing mine but all the other HDCs to fruition.
PS: You always bring out the book in me! —I mean, best in me! 😉😘
"...like I pushed it out of the same vajay-jay from which my kids came" 🤣🤣🤣 I almost spit out the lunch I'm devouring right now!!
You don't even know what your "books" do to me.... between them + Becky's private email to me yesterday... I need to confess so many things to you guys. It has to be on video too... I don't know... this experiment has done something really healing to me... and I need to talk about it.
I'm CONVINCED that kindreds make it easier to shift. Period. Sure, we have to do the work, but even the work.... it's really only possible + sustainable when there are people around to give you the space to do it.... that's lit up the corner you're in like a fucking Christmas tree. ❤️🦄🌭
Agreed! You’re soooo right! The sustainability is the support from those who sincerely love and care for you holding the space and ready to jump in when you need it. As I said before, you have created the last piece of the puzzle for us all! xoxo
Sorry -- read this while at a Jujitsu thing...then driving in a lightening storm.
First off, Dre, I loved this article.
Sitting there, nodding my head at my phone, and then reading Kristie's reply...yeah, I love you girls. Cannot express how happy I am that you came to substack, Dre.
[I'm still laughing, cause I remember the first time I found you online....can't even remember how, then took this test...this exact one...then bought some of your courses...and thought, "Yeah, we're gonna be friends. She just doesn't know it yet."
ba-BAM! Here we are. One of my 'kindred', yes, but it feels like something else...and maybe that's what YOU mean by kindred?
...but you girls....ALL of you....Jules, Becky, Susan...it's like my friends Kummer, and Joseph, and Hyrum....my little LoF community...feels like family.
I'm just so happy to be here.
57% Outlaw and 43% Guy Next Door sounds about right.
I WANT TO BE FRIENDS....but if you choose not to, welllll, sucks to be you.
That's what THAT sounds like.
I like "normal" folk. Or, I SEE the 'normal' in folk, and I like them.
Me...I've always known what I wanted to do. Just don't know how to get there, so I keep learning and working, and sacrificing...and I'm getting tired.
Not tired in what I'm doing, just...mortality creeping in...and I want to accomplish those goals so I can enjoy the rest of my life, both in making it happen, and in blessing my family.
...which includes all of you.
*sigh*
....do I make ANY sense?
I'm reading this out loud and thinking, "Oh, just shut up, cupcake."
NEVER shut up... we would miss out on so much funny, insightful, inspiring shit.
Yup, that's what I mean by kindred; there's something far beyond conventional connection with these people, and it's almost immediate. We can see + understand each other in a way that most of the world can't.
I think part of what I'm meant to do in this world is show people how to find THOSE people.
Don't even get me started on this lil' online family we're building in the Hot Dog Cart. It's Monday morning, I can't get sappy this early in the week. 😆
I’m going to be honest, I joined the HDC without a clear plan for the future of my business because it didn’t matter to me what I needed to do to get what the HDC promised—a work/life balance that would allow me the freedom to do what I truly wanted with my time, which is to be a more present mother to my kids and love on them so hard that THAT would become my full time job! To have more time to dedicate to myself and put into practice just BEing myself in efforts to heal at greater depths AND speed. And to create a business I loved so completely and unconditionally—like I pushed it out of the same vajay-jay from which my kids came.
With that said, I committed to do whatever the work was and as you know, I’ve been doing the work you’re dishing out even through ALL the discomfort and fear that ALL the vulnerability brings me and I knew it would push me towards even more freedom (to be me) but what I didn’t know was that the more I did the work, the more my plan for my business would form, the more I knew what my business cart would become and the more I became excited for my purpose in life to be packaged, offered and served to those who felt called to be served by me in such an authentic and meaningful way.
I’m growing and nurturing this business inside me and I will be birthing this business naturally—at home, at my pace, with Salsa music playing, surrounded by those I love and you as my business doula.
Truthfully— it really has become easier to shift, build and make decisions for my business because with each decision I make the answers are cumulatively creating the path (the dream plan for my business) as I continue to lean into, well, ME. The stars are just magically aligning. (I hope this made sense to you!)
So to our fearless experimentation leader, whom I dearly, wholeheartedly and unconditionally love (and let’s make this clear, I just met her this year so there’s no “we go back to yesteryear” bias) you have tapped into the most powerful wisdom and are sharing that wisdom while exemplifying that your “too much” to some is “just right” for this Goldie locks—I mean Brownie Locks, and your off the wall, unorthodox (which truly should be the orthodox way) of doing business without separation of business and Self has lit my soul on fire and I look forward to not only seeing mine but all the other HDCs to fruition.
PS: You always bring out the book in me! —I mean, best in me! 😉😘
❤️ Kristie
"...like I pushed it out of the same vajay-jay from which my kids came" 🤣🤣🤣 I almost spit out the lunch I'm devouring right now!!
You don't even know what your "books" do to me.... between them + Becky's private email to me yesterday... I need to confess so many things to you guys. It has to be on video too... I don't know... this experiment has done something really healing to me... and I need to talk about it.
I'm CONVINCED that kindreds make it easier to shift. Period. Sure, we have to do the work, but even the work.... it's really only possible + sustainable when there are people around to give you the space to do it.... that's lit up the corner you're in like a fucking Christmas tree. ❤️🦄🌭
Agreed! You’re soooo right! The sustainability is the support from those who sincerely love and care for you holding the space and ready to jump in when you need it. As I said before, you have created the last piece of the puzzle for us all! xoxo
PPS: Your unicorn 🦄 pic!!!!!—I just love you. 🫶
I’m craving more Dre-laced selfie photoshoots! 🤣
Can’t wait to see ‘em!!
💃🐈⬛⚡️🎼
I ❤️ you, Dre!
Right back at ya, Carrie!!! ❤️
57% Outlaw, 43% Guy Next Door...which I think is almost identical to when I first tool the test years ago.
I didn’t know you had all that Outlaw in you!! 😍
I'm a street kid at the core, that wants to find a more peaceful way to live...but if things go batcrap crazy, well,...that's okay too, I guess.
Honestly, I want to build my fictional world, bring people to it, and guard it's boarders from mudbutts and nay sayers...
Right there with ya! We will find out paths to that peace. I believe it in every fiber of my being.
Sorry -- read this while at a Jujitsu thing...then driving in a lightening storm.
First off, Dre, I loved this article.
Sitting there, nodding my head at my phone, and then reading Kristie's reply...yeah, I love you girls. Cannot express how happy I am that you came to substack, Dre.
[I'm still laughing, cause I remember the first time I found you online....can't even remember how, then took this test...this exact one...then bought some of your courses...and thought, "Yeah, we're gonna be friends. She just doesn't know it yet."
ba-BAM! Here we are. One of my 'kindred', yes, but it feels like something else...and maybe that's what YOU mean by kindred?
...but you girls....ALL of you....Jules, Becky, Susan...it's like my friends Kummer, and Joseph, and Hyrum....my little LoF community...feels like family.
I'm just so happy to be here.
57% Outlaw and 43% Guy Next Door sounds about right.
I WANT TO BE FRIENDS....but if you choose not to, welllll, sucks to be you.
That's what THAT sounds like.
I like "normal" folk. Or, I SEE the 'normal' in folk, and I like them.
Me...I've always known what I wanted to do. Just don't know how to get there, so I keep learning and working, and sacrificing...and I'm getting tired.
Not tired in what I'm doing, just...mortality creeping in...and I want to accomplish those goals so I can enjoy the rest of my life, both in making it happen, and in blessing my family.
...which includes all of you.
*sigh*
....do I make ANY sense?
I'm reading this out loud and thinking, "Oh, just shut up, cupcake."
NEVER shut up... we would miss out on so much funny, insightful, inspiring shit.
Yup, that's what I mean by kindred; there's something far beyond conventional connection with these people, and it's almost immediate. We can see + understand each other in a way that most of the world can't.
I think part of what I'm meant to do in this world is show people how to find THOSE people.
Don't even get me started on this lil' online family we're building in the Hot Dog Cart. It's Monday morning, I can't get sappy this early in the week. 😆
[...hands the tissue, smirking...]
Not today, Satan! P.S. That’s my favorite thing to say lately… and yes, I say it to myself all day. 😆
HAHA....a dear friend and mentor, R.I.P., used to say, "Ah, hairy legs is getting in the way..."
"Hairy legs?" I asked.
He nodded. "The devil is a big, ugly spider, if you ask me...sneakin' around, weaving webs of deception to trap people..."
Always liked that...
Oooh, I love a graphic analogy like this! That is what it feels like — being wrapped up in spider webs.
It’s like “walking into a spider web” on steroids. 🤣